The old rules were clear. You would be Miss Bennett as the oldest daughter, Miss Elizabeth as a younger daughter, and later Mrs. Darcy.
To keep using the example, I was never Miss Bennett or Miss Lizzie, and have never had a single person call me Mrs. Darcy, except perhaps a telemarketer calling at dinner time. I’m Lizzie at work, at dance, with friends.
And so far, I’m Lizzie with Q-ster’s friends.
I didn’t used to worry about he addressed other adults because it was so exciting that he was willing to address them at all. “Hooray! He said Hi,” instead of hiding behind me. Time has gone by and he’s more confident talking to and about the parents of his friends.
“Charlotte said that our sand castles were nice.”
“Catherine was really busy today.”
It sounds weird, coming from a five year old. Somehow, it seems like he should be saying, “Mrs. Collins said . . . “ and “Mrs. De Bourgh was . . .” On the flip side, it will be really weird to be regularly addressed as Mrs. Darcy.
If you have children, what do they call their friends’ parents?