Tuesday, March 23, 2010


I recently came across a couple of thoughtful posts by authors who are lesbians. One discussed how her son wanted to be a Boy Scout, which was troubling given the organization’s open discrimination against homosexuals, and the other was Lesbian Dad’s post, 20 Questions about Lesbian Fatherhood.

It just brought to mind how life is more complicated when you’re not in the majority or power center – race, gender, religion, and so forth.

A few weeks ago, I ran into a colleague I hadn’t seen in a long time.

“How old are your children now?” I asked.
“Three and nine!” she replied.

“Wow, how did that happen?!” I replied.
“Artificial insemination.”

I was mortified. I meant, “How did time fly by so quickly? Weren’t we just talking about your newborn baby? And now she’s three years old.”

I explained myself and apologized. She didn’t seem phased by it at all and we chatted along to the next topic.

Even though I have an interracial marriage, it’s still conventional in the sense that we’re one man and one woman, and heck, it’s a legal marriage. We can’t take for granted the privileges we have that are not available to others yet.

Totally unrelated photos of Q-ster's Waffle/Blueberry breakfast art and his little brother, doing a pretty good job of keeping up.


mayberry said...

I see you are working your way through the Eggo stash.

What a funny exchange with your colleague--thank goodness no feelings were hurt.

Bob said...

They can have a game on the waffle if one uses blueberry and another one uses cranberry. I can be like marble leapfrog, or even "Go".

Anonymous said...

Mmm, waffles!

I am very proud of Canada for recognizing same-sex marriages. I really hope that all US states follow suit, and soon.