Sunday, January 25, 2009

Thirty-Something and Just Right

I went to the doctor’s office earlier this month when the weeks of being sick became too irritating. After a couple of hours and $17 (thank god for health insurance), I had the exact same diagnosis that my mother gave me over the phone.

My own doctor wasn’t available, so I had seen the on-call doc, who made a lot of introductory chit chat. We talked about the baby, and she said she hoped that everyone else in the family was healthy again.

Dr. New said, “This is too much information, but I’m 32 and single, and I’m thrilled when I meet someone in her late 30’s who has young children. It makes me think that maybe I’ll get to have a family too.”

I had to think for a moment before I realized, “Hey, I’m in my late thirties!” Just a couple of weeks past a birthday, I’m now inarguably past a mid-thirties claim. And much like Bon wrote in her recent birthday posts, I find that I’m content where I am. Wife, mom, dancer, writer, high tech professional, and fledgling cook.

I’ve danced onstage with my sweetie in Paris, gone to the theatre every night for a week in New York City, worked 100 hour weeks in business. It was exciting, and maybe some of those things will come my way again. After all, my mom reminds me that our current Speaker of the House, Congresswoman Nancy Pelosi, didn’t run for political office until the youngest of her five children reached her final year of high school.

There are wider horizons ahead, and for now, having two small boys on my lap while we watch a photo slideshow of the weekend’s antics is just about right.

Updated: Edited to clarify that Dr. New is female. Thanks, Bea!

8 comments:

ewe are here said...

I like to hope that I have many years to see and do lots more, too... although I've recently crossed into the next decade.... shudder. ;-)

Bea said...

On my first read-through of this post I made the (sexist) assumption that Dr. New was a man and found his comment really inappropriate and offensive. Then I realized she may well have been a woman, in which case the comment seems refreshingly honest and friendly. I think I've just managed to be sexist against both men and women.

Amber said...

Thanks for this. I'm just getting into my mid-30s and it's sort of freaking me out. I haven't reached that level of contentment yet. But I will.

kittenpie said...

Oh, I have some big plans for when my children leave home one day!

Bon said...

the only place 37 did seem a bit shocking to me was realizing that it's definitely "late thirties." i am grateful to feel content where i am, as i'm not sure the age would sit so gracefully with me if i hadn't gotten a lot of my wild years out of my system. but with age i am ripening into someone more mellow...and am glad.

YF said...

yes.

Kimberly said...

This is a really wonderful post. I had a really hard time in my late 30s, but with 40 only a few months away, I'm feeling more and more zen about the whole thing. I guess I'm just a late bloomer in that respect. :-)

Magpie said...

And if Dr. New had said that to me, I'd have groaned and told her that it took me 8 years and 3 IVFs to get pregnant at 42. But that's just me.