Monday, September 17, 2007

What's the Opposite of Nice?

There's been a lot of chatter from ladies receiving the "Nice Matters" award not being comfortable with the title of "nice." Somehow, it seems to imply namby-pamby or lacking in backbone.

Do you really believe that the nice guy finishes last and never gets the girl (or guy)? Is that what you want your son to learn? Your daughter?

I'd like to set things straight. I might be swimming against the tide of common thought, but here goes. The most powerful and creative people I've ever met are nice.

A nice person can be kind. Friendly. Assertive. Interesting. Strong. Fascinating. Formidable.

The opposite of being nice is being an a$$hole. Who has time for that in their lives?

(Off soapbox.)


bubandpie said...

Wow, this post has a rhetorically powerful finish - best defence of niceness I've seen ever.

mayberry said...

Amen! Let's take back the word. I think that's part of the problem -- the word itself has become diluted, too lazily used.

Mamacita Tina said...

Nice to me means you handle things in an appropriate manner. You still accomplish the things you want, just in a way that doesn't hurt anyone.

kittenpie said...

Certainly they can be. It's not the connotation the word has picked up, but I like your thinking, that's for sure.

Lady M said...

B&P - thank you!

Mayberry - "take back" is a good way of thinking about it.

Mamacita tina - I agree!

Kittenpie - you're right, it has picked up connotations, ones that I think can be discarded, if not easily.

Damselfly said...

Yeah, nice has a lot to live up to, but also some reason a lot to live down!

Glad you used my Nice Matters button!

Christina said...

Agreed! Nice is still a compliment to me.

ewe are here said...

hear hear